Archive for May, 2009

mother in laws main cause of divorce

May 26th, 2009
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Mother-in-laws are the main reason why Indian couples divorces – so says a study by National Population and Family Development Board (LPPKN).  One can be quick to blame the suffocating mega-serials as part of the reason for this. Or the age gap  which leaves the mother-in-law stuck in the past while the daughter has move with the times.  Or even education level of women nowadays who don’t tolerate unwarranted attention and know their rights.

Next is infidelity at 25%. Blame it on ……work stress? alcohol? liberal thinking? loss of moral compass? lack of attention?

By the way, abuse is 5% of the reasons for divorce among the Indians.

Age plays are role too – it seems divorce is more apparent when on is age either below 25 or above 40. Meaning either lack of maturity, became brave, or becoming independent (financially) from the other spouse.

Parents-in-law or, more specifically, mother-in-law horror stories are widespread and with good reason as a study by the National Population and Family Development Board (LPPKN) shows.

Meddlesome in-laws are the main reason Indian couples divorce but it figures as one of the top reasons for divorce among Chinese and Malay couples, too.

The Malaysia Community and Family Study 2004 showed that the two other factors are incompatibility at 42.3% and infidelity at 12%.

“Interference of in-laws is the main reason why Indians divorce. It is the top ranked reason at 30%,” said LPPKN Director General Datuk Aminah Abdul Rahman when presenting a paper on Malaysia’s family profile and its effects Monday at Institut Kefahaman Islam Malaysia.

Infidelity is a deal breaker Malay and Indian marriages but it appears to be tolerated among the Chinese.

“Among Malays, the second most common reason for a divorce is infidelity and a refusal to put up with polygamy (enggan dimadukan),” she said.

“In the Indian community, infidelity is the second highest ranked reason for divorce at 25%,” she said.

However, the Chinese considered infidelity as the least crucial reason to demand a divorce. Cheating nestled at the bottom along with health and gambling addiction reasons at 4.2%.

Surprisingly, abuse is not a reason for divorce among the Malays and Chinese, but is a known reason among Indians at 5%.

“Another overall reason that ranked high among the three races at 11.5% is ‘not being responsible’,” she said.

She explained that though the family institution was perceived as quite fragile and divorces rampant, the data showed otherwise.

“According to a population survey in 2000, only a portion of the population at 0.7% is divorced,” she said.

The data showed that divorce is more likely to happen to those in the age group under 25 and above 40.

redevelopment programme for tamil schools?

May 26th, 2009
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I never heard of any Government “redevelopment progamme”, let alone the second phase of it. As far as I know, there’s two stimulus packages in the last 7 months. Is that the same thing? Total allocation for “rebuilding” and “repairing” Tamil schools is RM130 million (30+50+80). The 60 (or 62  as mentioned below) schools are under the RM80 million package.

Redevelopment = rebuilding and/or repairing?

I’m totally lost here, so hopefully some of the MIC fellas will clear the air over Samy’s statements:

Sixty Tamil schools will be rebuilt, many with new buildings, under the second phase of the Government’s redevelopment programme, MIC president Datuk Seri S. samy Vellu said.

The schools would be redeveloped under the RM100mil fund allocated by the Government, he said after visiting the partially-burnt Selangor River Tamil school here with Deputy Minister in the Prime Minister’s Department, Datuk S.K. Devamany, on Monday.

Samy Vellu said 72 Tamil schools have already been redeveloped under the first phase.

There are about 525 Tamil schools in the country, with more than 300 schools falling under the partially-aided government schools category.

Samy Vellu said the Public Works Department had recently tendered out the projects for the 62 schools, with work on the schools to commence soon.

On the Selangor River Tamil school, he said RM650,000 has been set aside by the Government to build a new building that would cater for six to seven classrooms.

Did they intend to see me naked?

May 25th, 2009
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Strong words indeed from Janice Lee! The Teratai ADUN spent three nights in remand for the candlelight vigil recently.

DAP Teratai assemblyperson Jenice Lee today slammed the police, saying the police violated her rights and harassed her during her recent detention.

Lee, who was just released on police bail yesterday, alleged that the police asked her to change into the lock-up uniform in a room equipped with CCTV, where the people outside can see what is happening in the room.

“As a woman and a people’s representative, how can I change my clothes under the monitor of the CCTV?” said an outraged Lee.

She said she complained to the police immediately, and then they brought her to another room without CCTV to change.

Lee revealed this today in a meeting with the Human Rights Commission (Suhakam) commissioner Khoo Kay Kim.

Lee, who is also the DAP Socialist Youth (DAPSY) deputy chief, was accompanied by DAPSY chief Anthony Loke Siew Fook and about 10 detainees of the Teratai candlelight vigil.

Lee and 15 others were released on police bail yesterday after spending three nights in the police lock-up.

They were arrested on Thursday night for holding an alleged illegal assembly.

Lee also accused the police of “harassing” her by allowing a few policemen to enter her detention room.

“When I saw one policeman entering the female detainees’ room, I warned him immediately, but he claimed that he was only standing by the side of the door.

“They even stood outside my room chatting. What if I was having a bath at that time? Did they intend to see me naked? Or did they want to take my naked picture?” she asked angrily.

Lee also criticised the police for not giving her a toothbrush, the reason being “a toothbrush is a weapon”.

Wah… Is she implying the police at that particular station are a bunch of perverts or voyeurs? Or at the very least, of suspect moral? This doesn’t sound good. Either the police sue her or she sues them.

A day in the garden

May 25th, 2009
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Spent some time in the garden today – after a week of neglect! Managed to cut grass and clear the place a bit. Tiring…and hot!

Anyway, a few firsts this week:

– first time seeing curry leave plant fruits

– papaya plant seems to be flowering.

– lady finger plant under attack

– brinjals growing well so far…

Petronas apologises over chemical leak incident

May 24th, 2009
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Following the chemical leak and subsequent protest by parents and NGOs concerned about SJKT Ladang Emerald, the below action were taken by Petronas. They had a meeting with the concerned people on Friday:

Pupils, teachers and other staff of SJK (T) Ladang Emerald who were affected by a chemical leak last Tuesday will receive free medical check-up from Petronas.

The company will also reimburse all medical expenses incurred in the treatment of the students.

Petronas Gas officials, together with the Health Department and Department of Occupational Safety and Health officers, had a meeting yesterday with the school administration and the Parent-Teacher Association.

Petronas officers apologised for the chemical leak and explained how the leak occurred while the Health department officers gave an explanation on the effects of the chemical, ethyl mercaptan.

Kota Raja member of parliament Dr Siti Mariah Mahmud also attended the meeting. She later said Petronas had also agreed to carry out community service projects at the school.
The company also gave an assurance that such an incident would not recur and all safety aspects would be strictly followed.

The leak occurred during an annual maintenance work by a contractor appointed by Petronas at 11am on Tuesday.

The Shah Alam City Gate facility, a gas sub-station, regulates natural gas flow to industries in Shah Alam.

The chemical was being added to the gas when the leak occurred and a gust of wind blew it into the school in Jalan Bukit Kemuning, 300m away. Ethyl mercaptan is used to give a strong odour to natural gas.

… During yesterday’s meeting, Petronas ruled out moving the facility as it had been there for more than 10 years, before the area became developed.

PTA chairman S. Murugiah said the medical check-up would be done in medical camps to be run by Petronas for two months.

He said he was happy with the assurance by Petronas that they were taking all possible measures to ensure such leaks did not recur.

Looks like a lot of work for Petronas over the blunder. Perhaps the school could have requested 20 PCs as well 🙂

It goes without saying that the procedures should be reviewed, the contractor penalised and more stringent methods are introduced.

We hope such incidents do not occur, but all is easier said than done. Petronas won’t move the statio since it came before the school. So, move the school?