Posts Tagged ‘temples’

Wedding at Sunway

May 21st, 2007
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Steeped in tradition, but not all the way

By SALINA KHALID, VIVIENNE PAL and ESTHER CHANDRAN
 

Photos by SAMUEL ONG 

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IT was a dream come true for Tilaga Gunasekaran and Ganasegaran Velumurugan when they sealed their love for each other before family and friends at their wedding on Saturday. 

Tilaga, 27, and Ganasegaran, 29, dated since their teenage years and through their years of courting, both the bride and groom's family have become closely knit. 

The couple's wedding at the Sri Subramaniar Temple in Bandar Sunway was elaborately planned between both families. 

Merry parade: The PJS 7 neighbourhood came alive on Saturday afternood when the wedding procession moved from the bride’s house on PJS 78/7J towards the Sri Subramaniar Temple nearby.

Although the event observed all Hindu wedding customs and rites, it was adorned with a flair of difference. 

A handsome white Belgian horse pulling a simple white carriage waited patiently for the bridal couple at the bride's home at PJS7/7J with horse trainer Fuad Kasa from the Bukit Kiara Equestrian Resort Kuala Lumpur keeping it company. 

Guests dressed in all finery for a Hindu wedding were present at the venue. 

Joining the merriment were members of a kompang group from the Kumpulan Seri Budaya Lindungan, dressed in crisp red batik shirts and black pants. 

Strikingly obvious in the crowd was a tall peacock dancer. 

M. Kaarikalan wore a shimmering turquoise green and gold outfit with peacock feathers adding to its allure, and had his face painted to give off the proud aura of the handsome bird. 

While the dancers and musicians waited for the bridal couple; inside the house, family and friends mingled, old acquaintances were renewed and new friendships formed. 

The groom, surrounded by close friends, was easily identifiable as he sported an off white turban, a brilliant green shirt against a silk veshti. 

He like many others, waited for the bride to descend and when she did, she appeared in a busy blinding gold and green saree. 

Spread out on a carpet were trays and trays of gifts of fruits and sweets. 

At the appointed hour, the bridal couple were ushered to the carriage and instantaneously; the sounds of urumi melam came alive together with the beat of the kompang. 

The Sri Sivasakti Kolatam Group comprising dancers, aged from 11 to 18 added to the merriment by beating sticks to create a musical sound. 

The bridal entourage walked to the temple, about a kilometre from the house accompanied by police escort. 

Onlookers stopped to watch the colourful affair; camera phones came alive as people took the opportunity to capture the moment on picture. 

Although the bridal couple were the king and queen for the day, the peacock dancer was the centre of attention. 

The barefoot dancer leaped graceful on the hot road and many felt that the hot burning asphalt contributed to his brilliant jumps. 

The simple non-elaborate temple had been decorated for the wedding and guests were already waiting for the bridal couple's arrival as early as 10.30am. 

As soon as the bride and groom arrived, temple priests took their places at the bridal dais to prepare for the elaborate ceremony. 

Ganasegaran and Tilaga changed into their wedding clothes before the ceremony began.  

Before family and friends, Velumurugan wed his bride Gunasekaran by tying three knots of the thali around her neck. 

As soon as this was done, guests threw rice confetti wishing the couple all the best in their future.

A family ripped apart

May 16th, 2007
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Muslim or Hindu? A family ripped apart (Malaysiakini)      
Monday, 14 May 2007
 
She wants her husband and their seven children to embrace Islam. But her husband is adamant about remaining a Hindu till his death. After 21 years of marriage, the family of rubber-tappers P Marimuthu and Raimah Bibi is being torn apart for religious reasons.
 
The matter became a national issue when the Selangor Islamic authorities separated Raimah and six children from Marimuthu. He then turned to the civil court for custody of the children aged between four and 14.

Raimah, 40, later agreed to hand over custody to her husband. Although, she is now housed in a nearby village, she visits her children and husband regularly.

Malaysiakini met the couple at their house in Ulu Yam, Selangor, to get their story.

In an emotionally charged exchange, both husband and wife accused one another for their predicament.

Raimah claimed that she was “misled” into signing the custody agreement and wants to take action against her husband’s lawyer, Karpal Singh.

“I am illiterate, and my husband’s lawyer did not explain the letter to me in detail. He told me to sign and I signed it. I am going to file a case against him. Now, I don’t have any rights over the children, you have all the rights,” an upset Raimah told her husband.

“Nobody comes to see me, not even the children. Even if the children are sick, only my husband can take them to the clinic. When the children were with me, many people came to see us. They gave rice and other things. They gave RM150 for expenses. But since the court case ended, nobody has come.”

Raimah remained unconvinced when her husband explained that the letter was read to her in court and that she was still their mother, no matter what.

“What more do you want? You get to visit them. I have only been given custody of the children. After they turn 18, they can decide for themselves,” said Marimuthu, 44, to his wife.

“Is seeing them enough?” retorted Raimah in tears.

“When they are above 18 and suppose they want to follow my religion, would you allow them? I was the one who got cheated. I was stupid to sign the (custody) letter.
“He (Marimuthu) wanted the children and I signed the letter, and now his problem is solved but I am left alone. I have just have one daughter staying with me but I have no rights over her either.”

Mayhem over formalities

Asked if he knew that his wife is a Muslim when they got married, Marimuthu said her identity card states her name as ‘Raimah Bibi a/p (or ‘daughter of’) Noordin’ and not binti (the Muslim equivalent).

“In her MyKad (which she obtained recently), her name is stated as Raimah binti Noordin and her religion as Islam. This is what caused all the problems,” he said.

Raimah, who is shown wearing a tudung (head scarf) in the MyKad photograph, said she has been a Muslim from birth, but her husband claimed that she never informed him about this.

“He said ‘if you had told me this, I would not have married you’. In the old identity card, all my family members have a/p (typically used for Indian Malaysian names) instead of binti.

“I got mine changed to binti a few months back but he (Marimuthu) claims that someone had added it. How can he not know I am a Muslim? Both Raimah and Nordin are Muslim names.”

Asked why their marriage was not legally registered, Marimuthu replied that it was not an important thing to do at the time.

Raimah revealed that she had approached the religious authorities on her own accord and informed them that she was a Muslim. However, her husband does not believe this.

Asked how the problem could be solved, Ramiah replied: “I already told them that I am a Muslim. How can I turn back again now, especially after the whole country knows the case? They (the Islamic authorities) will not allow me to turn back.”

On why she decided to do this after more than two decades of marriage, she said: “I did this because I thought all of us would become Muslims. I never thought he (Marimuthu) would do all this (take the matter to court). If I had known, I wouldn’t have revealed that I'm Muslim.”

Raimah also disclosed that she had not informed her husband of her intention to meet the religious authorities.

Plight of family

Marimuthu ruled out the possibility of converting so that the family can live together again. He also claimed that he was offered rewards such as a loan and land in return for his conversion.

“I was born a Hindu and that’s how I wish to remain. If this question was posed to me six years ago, I might have agreed because I was forced to sleep with my family on the streets when our squatter house in Ampang was demolished.

“But everyone, including Malay leaders that I approached for help, wanted money in return. Nobody helped me, so why I should convert?”

On whether he would reconsider his decision for the sake of his children, Marimuthu was firm about raising them as Hindus and said he is prepared to face any hardship that arises.

The rubber tapper, who earns between RM500 and RM1,200 a month depending on the weather, said: “I am confident I can take care of them even if I have to do it alone. I am content with the current arrangement, where my wife comes and visits the children.

“When the children are old enough, let them decide which religion they want to follow. They (the religious authorities) have separated me from my wife in the name of religion, but they cannot separate her from the children. For that, I am happy.”

Marimuthu claimed that, prior to this problem, religion had never been issue between him and his wife.

“No matter what problems we faced, we were happy together.”

In the past, he said, Raimah lived like a Hindu and was not averse to frequenting temples.

Recalling the day that his wife and children were taken away, Marimuthu said he suffered from mental and emotional anguish.

“I couldn’t sleep or eat. I was like a mad man. It is this that drove an uneducated man like me to seek help from DAP and go right up to Parliament. I was afraid that they would convert my children,” he added.

Raimah admitted that she lied to Marimuthu that she was going out to get medicine, but had gone to the Islamic affairs office instead.

“Contrary to what my husband thinks, I did not do this because I wanted to leave him. I still want to be with him. But he thinks someone has influenced me to do this,” she said.

“I always wanted to do this (return to being a practising Muslim). I had this idea for a long time, but did not know how to go about it. Although, I went to temples and performed prayers, I could not forget my religion.”

 

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New case-Hindu man seeks wife’s release from Islamic reform centre

May 14th, 2007
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Hindu man seeks wife’s release from Islamic reform centre BERNAMA
http://www.nst.com.my/Current_News/NST/Monday/NewsBreak/20070514180725/Article/index_html
SHAH ALAM, MON:
A Hindu man today filed a habeas corpus application to seek the release of his wife, whom he said was illegally detained by the superintendent of the Baitul Aman Faith Reform Centre since Jan 8. » Read more: New case-Hindu man seeks wife’s release from Islamic reform centre

NEWS:Be more sensitive to religious issues, leaders told

May 9th, 2007
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“Sensitivity of the location must never be overlooked,” Tan Sri Abdul Hamid Othman, religious adviser to the prime minister said.
So, how can there are temples and schools located next to sewerage ponds? Maybe he means Sensitivity of the location must never be overlooked for certain group only.
Be more sensitive to religious issues, leaders told By : Hamidah Atan
http://www.nst.com.my/Current_News/NST/Wednesday/National/20070509080700/Article/index_html
PUTRAJAYA: Political leaders, regardless of the parties they represent, must remain sensitive to religious issues, no matter how trivial.
Tan Sri Abdul Hamid Othman, religious adviser to the prime minister, said such issues must never be politicised as this could disrupt peace and stability.
“There must be alternatives and solutions to every problem.
“As political party leaders, they must refrain from making statements that can lead to provocation or anger.
“They must be tolerant of each other and seek solutions that will ensure the continued religious and ethnic coexistence among all the races,” he added. Hamid was referring to the controversy over the Ma Tzu Goddess of the Sea statue in Kudat, which had resulted in the resignation of Tan Sri Chong Kah Kiat as the Sabah deputy chief minister.
Chong wanted the 27-metre statue to be built, but Chief Minister Datuk Seri Musa Aman had ordered the work to be stopped.
Musa said the decision to stop the construction followed objections from other quarters.
During a meeting with 50 Christian, Buddhist and Taoist leaders, Musa said the United Sabah Islamic Association, Angkatan Belia Islam Malaysia, Persatuan Belia Intelek Kudat, Kudat As-Syakirin mosque committee and Umno Kudat were unhappy with the site for the statue.
They objected because the statue was being built too close to the district mosque.
Musa said the state government had offered an alternative site for the statue and agreed to pay compensation for the cost incurred.
He accused Chong of trying to politicise the issue, adding that the original site of the statue had been given to a shipping company to put up a building.
Hamid said constructing places of worship for all races had never been a problem.
“It is not an issue at all, but the location matters.
“So, it becomes the responsibility of all quarters and the leaders to find a suitable site that will not create problems for someone else.
“Sensitivity of the location must never be overlooked,” he said.

Towering Indians – N Kamala Devi Since the 1940s

May 6th, 2007
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Catching up with: Serving the people in a big way
http://www.nst.com.my/Current_News/NST/Sunday/National/20070506090338/Article/index_html
Called to the Bar less than a month before Merdeka, N. Kamala Devi remembers the big day vividly and talks to P. SELVARANI about giving back to society.
IT was a big family, the parents and all nine children, and the talk at the family dinner table in the late 1940s and early 1950s almost always centred on the coming independence and how the family could serve the new nation.
It was also a time when the thinking was that a girl’s place was in the kitchen and learning all the other domestic duties that would serve them well in a marriage, while the boys were to be educated so that they could bring in the money.
But the country’s push for independence also saw many a father thinking differently, like M. Nadchatiram who decided that his children, both sons and daughters alike, should study and serve the family and nation.
Kamala Devi, the eldest child, he decided, should become a doctor and serve the people. But Kamala refused, saying “hospitals depress me” and went for law. Her father agreed.
Being the eldest, and a girl at that, Kamala had to make sure that she succeeded and set an example to her younger brothers and sisters.
(Four of her five sisters became lawyers — Puan Sri Saraswathy Devi Alagendra, Vijayalakshmi Devi, Suseela Devi and Mahadevi — and the one who did not become a lawyer, Dhanapakia Devi, married one, lawyer-politician Datuk S.P. Seenivasagam. A brother, Mahadevan, died when he was 17. Two brothers, Sahadevan and Jega Devan, are lawyers and the youngest brother, named after the late Mahadevan, is a doctor.)

Kamala, who had her education at the King George V primary school and Seremban Convent, read law at Lincoln’s Inn in London and was called to the English Bar in 1956. She returned to Malaya in June that year.
She chambered at Messrs Yong Sze Lean in Seremban and was called to the Malayan Bar on Aug 2, 1957, 29 days before Merdeka.
August 1957 was a great month for Kamala, being called to the Bar early in the month and attending the Merdeka celebrations at the end of the month.
“We drove up to Kuala Lumpur. It was a very nice and grand feeling. The Merdeka Stadium was filled with people,” remembers Kamala, 75, who accompanied her father, Nadchatiram, a state executive councillor, and mother, Rajapakiam.
“The Yam Tuan (Yang Di-Pertuan Besar of Negri Sembilan Tuanku Abdul Rahman Tuanku Muhammad, who became the first king) and his entourage arrived by train from Seremban.”
Kamala, like others at the stadium, were mesmerised when Tunku Abdul Rahman Putra Al-Haj punched his clenched fist into the air and declared “Merdeka! Merdeka! Merdeka!”
“It was a proud moment for us. People were happy because it meant that our country would be run by our own people.”
Kamala set up the legal firm of N. Kamala Devi & Co in Seremban and did a lot of conveyancing work as the British were selling most of their rubber estates then.
It was around that time that she got into property development.
“My father had several plots of land in Labu Road and I suggested that we could build some bungalows.
“We built 15 bungalows and rented them out to the British Army.”
Kamala then developed another piece of her father’s property in Port Dickson before she set her sights on Kuala Lumpur and Klang.
The Taynton Estate in Cheras was up for sale and Kamala bought all 126.4ha of it for RM2.8 million in June, 1966.
“It was a lot of money then but I took a loan from AIA and built houses, phase by phase. Fortunately, the rubber trees were high-yielding and the monthly income from the trees helped to pay the interest on the loan.”
Kamala says she was able to secure the 100 per cent loan for the project thanks to her friend, Datuk Harun Idris, the former Selangor menteri besar, who studied law with her in London.
As the housing project was in the “outskirts”, Kamala came up with a marketing strategy to sell her houses — affordable houses and easy financing.
“My single-storey terrace houses were priced at RM12,500 and I went to the squatter areas with my clerk, Loong Ling Shau.
“I told the squatters that they only needed to pay RM2,500 and I would arrange the bank loan for the remaining RM10,000 over 10 years. The monthly instalment was RM136.”
The four-bedroom single-storey terrace houses started selling like hot cakes and Kamala was able to pay off her bank loan in three years.
Her next housing development project was Taman Mutiara in Jalan Kota Raja, Klang.
“But my late husband, Dr K. Thevarajah, did not like it at all and he used to irritate me by calling me ‘developer’.”
Kamala says her projects were successful because “I do a lot of thinking before I embark on something”.
“A good business person must know how to manage his funds. I don’t like borrowing because I don’t like paying interest.”
Kamala has named many roads in her housing estate after those who are near and dear to her, like her father, Nadchatiram, Harun, her second sister Dhanapakia Devi and her youngest sister Mahadevi.
Jalan Arasekesari is named after a cousin, Jalan Choo Lip Kung is named after a lawyer friend while Jalan Bee Eng is named after Kamala’s former secretary who suffered cancer.
Forty-one years later, Kamala is still developing vacant pockets of the former rubber estate which stretches to the border of Sungei Besi.
And till today, she has a hands-on approach managing the day-to-day affairs of her legal firm and construction company.
“Although I have a team of site supervisors and engineers, I still deal with the government departments and agencies myself.
“You could say I am the chairman, managing director, clerk and runner for the company.”
Despite her busy schedule, Kamala finds time to offer prayers twice a day at her own Krishna temple perched on a hill across the main Jalan Cheras, which has now turned into a highway, from Taynton View.
Life is not just looking into the housing company and legal firm, or playing the veenai (Indian stringed musical instrument), violin and singing bhajan (Hindu hymns).
For Kamala, whose life has been good in a Malaysia run by Malaysians, has now embarked on a big project for the people — building a hospital in memory of her husband near the temple.
“It will be a free hospital with facilities for every discipline of medicine,” says Kamala. “It should be ready in a year.
“This is my contribution to society.”